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06 January 2004 @ 05:49 pm
Friends List Changes  
Recently I was looking over my friends list, and I realized that there were some people I just didn't feel a connection with. I decided that it really wasn't fair to myself or those people to keep them on my friends list if I'm not reading their entries, and I realized that it felt awkward to be letting them read my entries when I don't feel at all close to them and don't foresee myself getting to know them any better.

With that said, I've removed some from my friends list completely. Please don't be offended by it, and if you have something you'd like to say to me about it, feel free to e-mail me. I have a permanent account, so my LiveJournal address will work just fine for that. This isn't meant to say that I don't like you or that you're a bad person or anything like that at all. I just don't feel right keeping you on my friends list at this point.

If you'd like to leave me on your friends list to see my (rare) public entries, that's entirely up to you. :)
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Melody: hopecomeseptember on January 6th, 2004 03:18 pm (UTC)
I'm glad you liked the card. :) And it most definitely isn't anything to do with you--I think you're a very nice person, and I'll see you around through support (in communities, on IRC), so don't be too upset about it. Like I said, definitely not you. :]
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Melody: hopecomeseptember on January 11th, 2004 05:39 am (UTC)
It's not about commenting, so don't worry about that. :]
aajwind on January 6th, 2004 03:46 pm (UTC)
I'm so glad I wasn't removed. I have been unfriended by a few people lately - Chris, Rob~, etc. - and I'm feeling insecure. I don't mind being defriended by some people, but others really hurt me when they defriend me. You'd belong in that "others" category. :) Thanks.
Melody: mecomeseptember on January 6th, 2004 05:03 pm (UTC)
You're very welcome. And wow, I'm flattered that you think so highly of me. :)
crazygal on January 6th, 2004 03:49 pm (UTC)

I made it.. yay :)
Melody: happycomeseptember on January 6th, 2004 05:07 pm (UTC)
Yes yes! :D I've had you friended much too long, and well before I got up over 100 friends, so there was much more time and opportunity to get to you know you and very much want you to be able to keep reading my journal. :)
crazygal on January 6th, 2004 05:09 pm (UTC)
And just so you know, even though I rarely comment, I do read it :)
Melody: daffodilcomeseptember on January 6th, 2004 06:26 pm (UTC)
Same here. :)
.juris on January 10th, 2004 09:41 am (UTC)
I'm sorry you didn't feel a connection to me.

I was wondering how I can find your client. I would like to down load it. It is looks great on your journal and I've been meaning to download a good client for about a year now. I still use the website version.

Melody: uhhh...comeseptember on January 11th, 2004 05:42 am (UTC)
The client I use wouldn't have an effect on the way my journal looks... Are you sure you mean client and not style? :/
.juris on January 11th, 2004 11:43 am (UTC)
I have no idea what I'm talking about, I guess. I like the way your journal looks!
Melody: thoughtfulcomeseptember on January 11th, 2004 01:25 pm (UTC)
OK, that would be style then. ;) I actually made it myself, and since you have a paid account, you can use it.

It's an S2 style, so you may like to read through the FAQs on S2. The community for my style is s2tabbedmenu. The only way I know of for you to use it is to create a new layout layer, copy and paste the source code for my style (follow the links in the community to get to it), and compile that. There's supposed to be an easier way now that I added a certain line to the code, but I'm not sure what it is. If I find out, I'll let you know. :]
.juris on January 12th, 2004 09:15 am (UTC)
thanks. you're sweet.
Melody: stampcomeseptember on January 12th, 2004 06:50 pm (UTC)
You're welcome. And thank you. :)
the claw!fuzzyamy on January 12th, 2004 06:21 pm (UTC)

This may be an inopportune time for me to ask, but I would like to be friended by you. After seeing the umphteenth reference to you on Scott/Shauna/Erin's journal, I looked through some of your website. Your writing reflects very well of you, and I would like to read more.

I like reading about how level-headed, nice people see their world.

I don't have many friends-only entries at this point in my journaling, and as such, you're welcome to read whatever you find to help you make your decision.

Thanks for your time,

Melody: mecomeseptember on January 14th, 2004 01:38 pm (UTC)
Inopportune only in the sense of the timing with respect to recent personal events, as you probably have garnered somewhat of an idea of from Scott's journal and can now see in mine. I haven't been in the best of spirits the past few days.

I really appreciate your comments on my web site, though. I've actually been meaning to add some new writing to it that conveys how my abilities have changed in the past few years--I'm not too impressed by what I have up there, personally, so I always find it a surprise when someone else likes it. :)

Having read some of your journal, and seen many of your comments in various journals through Scott (his, entries he's linked to, probably Shauna and others, too...), it wasn't hard for me to decide reading more would be enjoyable and that you're someone I'd like to be able to read my entries. :)

Also, I'm very impressed by how polite you are in this comment! Almost too polite, even! I certainly hope you don't feel the need to be so formal in comments to me in the future. ;)
the claw!fuzzyamy on January 14th, 2004 02:32 pm (UTC)
Thank you for the compliment!

And yes -- originially when I spoke of my request being inopportune, it was because this request was on an entry stating your intentions to groom your friends list. I had no idea about my lack of timing in other regards until this morning, when I thought about how this request might have felt like a bit of salt in your wound. For that, I apologize.

If I ever seem too formal to you, it's just because I'm trying to err on the side of caution. I am well-known in my circle of friends for being, or having been, overly blunt and direct in person. Formal and polite writing serves a person such as myself well.

It also strategically highlights the occasions during when I carefully choose to be rude.

Looking forward to seeing you around the 'net!
Melody: hopecomeseptember on January 14th, 2004 02:59 pm (UTC)
That's what I figured you meant. However, there's no reason for you to apologize--you couldn't have known what was going on, and I haven't let it bother me much because of that.

Hee, in that respect, I think we'll get along great online. :) I tend to take things very literally, often completely miss jokes and sarcasm, and have trouble with reading between the lines of what others say to me. Being blunt and direct is the best way to communicate with me, really. ;)